This one is so pretty! The pink and light blue look so cute and helps break the flag up a bit more. Plus they were removed for stupid reasons.
Personally, I really appreciate the two flags which include the trans flag.
I went to pride a couple of years ago where there were mainly just rainbow flags and then individual flags for specific identities. What bothered me was that I barely saw a single trans flag, and everything seemed to based around sexuality, people referring to pride as ‘gay pride’ and so on. In short, I didn’t feel like I had a place there as a trans guy.
Since the rainbow flag is the gay flag, I think it makes complete sense to combine this with the trans flag (and other colours) in order to make pride events feel more welcoming to all identities. This doesn’t have to mean no more rainbow flags - the gay flag remains the same, everyone can still have their individual flags to match their label, but as a community flag I am in complete support of these changes and have been pleased to see them in the past year around my city.
Bridging what could very easily be perceived as a community divide by combining flags is one really important way to improve cohesion and avoid conflicts (such as that we see from TERFs) sure, some people may not think they’re as pretty, but please consider the positive implications that come with such changes.
Tweets from Patrick Strudwick 12/02/20, re: ‘gender critical’ radical feminism
“We’re not transphobic, we just think you’re a danger to children, women, society, lesbians, gay men, feminism, yourselves, and should be excluded from everywhere we decide you shouldn’t be, and should be denied treatment, demonised, pathologised, ridiculed + debated endlessly … It’s DEFAMATORY to call us transphobes but we call you misogynists, homophobes, lesbian-erasers, women-haters, perverts, Nazis, zealots, child abusers, and The Trans Taliban for defending trans rights … We’re progressives! We’re on the left! We’ll just happily take money from hard-right organisations to call for trans ppl to be excluded! We’re the real feminists! We’ll just write for Putin-backed or Trump-supporting outlets that oppose abortion cos then we can say no to trans!”
This. It’s gotten to a point where, although of course there is still a way to go for women’s rights, it seems like a small group (ie. TERFs) have decided they actually quite enjoy being victims, so they’ll make every possible baseless argument to enable themselves to indulge in self victimisation. I watched a video the other day of awkward celebrity interviews from maybe a decade or so ago. I was horrified at the way women were treated - invasive sexual questions, inappropriate invasion of space… it’s immensely different from how things are today and I think it’s easy for people to ignore just how far we’ve come. And yet, look at interviews with trans people and often you will come across similarly inappropriate questioning.
The hostility from 'gender critics’ is exhausting and more harmful than individuals seem to realise. Nothing will change; trans people will always exist and with that knowledge, despite all evidence indicating that trans people (at least in western societies) are the 'more oppressed’ group (which I hate to say because it’s not a competition and there are many many other factors at play), they will continue to delude themselves with the idea that they’re more oppressed than anybody else. Wake up. You are an individual, look at yourself, not just your group. Acknowledge your privileges.
What makes me 'unprivileged’? What causes me most suffering? I’m trans. I’m not straight. I have disabilities. I experienced abuse throughout childhood and continue to endure unjust treatment as an adult.
But I am privileged.
Why am I privileged?
I am socially perceived as a cis male, so I am not often the target, in-person, of transphobia.
I identify as a binary gender, so there is always the right box available for me to tick and without fear of people’s reactions.
I am white so have never been a target of racism.
I am educated - I went through private education which helped me get good grades, leading me to a great university which pushes me to achieve top grades and improve job prospects.
I grew up in a financially comfortable environment - I never went hungry, I always had a roof over my head.
On the whole, I was accepted when I came out as trans - I wasn’t kicked out, I wasn’t told I was wrong, I wasn’t held back from doing what I needed to do.
I have free access to health services thanks to the NHS, which also covers transitioning.
I was able to medically transition, and I was able to skip extremely long NHS waiting lists for top surgery by going privately with an incredible surgeon.
I am healthy.
I am English and grew up in England so never faced xenophobia or significant language barriers.
I am atheist, so never faced discrimination based on religious beliefs.
I’m sure there are many more…
This is not a fight between sexes. This isn’t “oppression of cis women”. You may not understand, you may have your concerns - that’s fine, just make the effort to overcome those worries by engaging with the community (I am more than happy to chat with anyone). But I encourage everybody (trans, gender critical, neither…) to take a moment to list the reasons why you are privileged. It doesn’t have to be a comprehensive list; just show some gratitude for the position you are in - it’s healthy. As an extension, why not message somebody who doesn’t have the same privileges as you do, and discuss the ways these absent privileges impact each other’s lives? What better way to understand how we can make this world a better place for everyone?
N.B. If the 'check your privilege’ comments annoy you, it is generally an indication that you are in a more privileged position and could benefit more than anyone to take part in acknowledging what those priviledges are.
“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.
REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”
EVERYONE BOOT THE FUCK OUT OF THIS
This is so fucking unfortunate that we need this
it just makes me angry that women need this.. but we do and if you see this, PLEASE REBLOG. it doesn’t matter if you are a male or a female. by reblogging this, you might save someone’s life.
If you have a car that automatically unlocks both doors, talk to you mechanic. I’ve had two older cars (key locks) rewired so only the driver’s side unlocked. It wasn’t very expensive and I consider it much safer.
- “born a woman”/“born a man”
- “woman trapped in a man’s body”/“man trapped in a woman’s body”
- “preferred” pronouns (they’re not preferred, they are)
if cis people could refrain from these phrases, that would be aces
